“Don’t judge me!” is a common battle cry when nasty disagreements arise between people.  No doubt about it, nothing feels worse than to feel devalued  by those who lord their righteousness over us.  Yet, all of us engage in this dehumanizing behavior nearly every day –  in our thoughts if not always in our actions. Ridding ourselves of these constant negative evaluations takes vigilance and a heightened self-awareness. But it can be done. Start with today. Take a baby step. Direct the mind to your own personal mantra ready to replace the downward spiral of thoughts. “Come Holy Spirit, fill me with compassion.” Repeat over and over until the downward spiral passes. And it will.